Is Your Emotional Intelligence Authentic, or Self-Serving? - Don’t use empathy, listening, or self-awareness to manipulate others.
10 september 2011
My Emotional Intelligence
Not so long ago he started to realize that emotional intelligence (picture from http://www.maetrix.com.au/) is one important framework to describe a persons ability to create results in this world. He reflected somewhat of himself and did the following observation about his own abilities linked to the emotional intelligence framework:
"I beleive I have a pretty good self-awareness and also in many situations can use my assertiveness to express my feelings, even though I have some challenges in more conflict oriented situations. My self-regard is getting better but has always been a challenge, but my self-actualization is high even though I still limit my own potential capacities to a certain extent. My independence has never been a strength and probably never will. In interpersonal relations I am good at establishing relationships but really not an expert in maintaining mutually satisfying relationships. My empathy level is high in terms of emotionally reading other people and my social responsibility is OK. My problem solving skills is more into intellectually and emotionally identifying and defining problems than to implement actual solutions in real life whereas my reality testing is good and my flexibility is great (even though my wife claims it´s not)."
After having said that, he felt somewhat satisfied and decided to continue his journey into the unknown territories of self actualization...
A story based on an authentic person IRL...